Happy New Year! I am writing on day 17 of the new year, and according to many polls and study, most people will abandon their New Year’s resolution within two weeks and about 66% will be abandoned by the end of the month. Why is this? These studies show that we have good intentions, but due to a high failure rate, something is very wrong. I can speak from experience through my failures of not achieving my goals and resolutions, like anything else in my life, “I either win, or I learn”, so I learned from my mistakes. I did a deep dive and learned all I can about goals and how to achieve them. The one thing I learned is that we don’t give our goals and resolutions the respect it deserves and is required for us to achieve them.
I am sure you have been asked, “so what is your New Year’s Resolution?” – And like most of us probably blurted out the first thing that comes to our mind, or maybe even recycled an old goal or resolution that failed in the past years. We simply don’t match the same level of seriousness required to achieve our goals as we do just setting them. Speaking of setting goals, I think we are only great at setting goals versus making a plan, the commitment, and daily actions to accomplish our goals. Sure, setting a goal feels good, people praise us but when the alarm clock beeps at 6 AM to start your “get up early and workout” goal, the obstacles and challenges overcome the loose goal you blurted out as you hit the snooze button and wake up at your usual time again. Did you prepare for this challenge? Is your goal inspiring enough? Did you even commit to taking the first step?
Goals and resolutions deserve the proper respect and what I mean by this is that, if you set a goal, do you really think about what is needed actually to achieve it? Did you plan for the challenges? Did you commit and prepare yourself for the discipline as well as the changes you need to make in your schedule to fit the new goal into your life? Like most of us, probably not and that is why goals die of inactivity.
I NEVER VISIT THE GYM THE FIRST 2 WEEKS IN JANUARY
Here’s a tip for you. I never visit the gym the first two weeks in January. Why, because this is when people are making a good effort at making the first step. Now I commend them for this as they are much better than the folks who gave up and didn’t even take the first step to getting out of the house and make it to the gym. The first step is very tough, but like anything new and disruptive in our lives, it will be tough and the yes, the first step is tough, but we usually underestimate the unseen challenges that will reveal themselves once we get into it. Just like going to the gym for the first time, it is hard, I know. But, after day one, week one and week two, what happens is that our muscles get really sore because our body is not used to the new activity and it takes time to get conditioned. Then our daily life kicks in and like most of us, we are busy, and priorities get in the way. That is why within two weeks after making a resolution, we quit on our goal and go back to our lives. We also feel good that we made an effort. But, does that do us any good? This is why I don’t go to the gym during the first two weeks. It is simply a madhouse of folks trying to make good on their resolutions, but give it two weeks, and the gym will start going back to normal.
It takes commitment, discipline, and planning to truly meet and achieve your goals. If setting goals are not working for you, it is time to take a look as to why that happens and to try a different approach. Like Albert Einstein exclaimed, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results,” is fitting here. You need to change what you are doing, and the first step is to give your goals more respect.
LEARN HOW YOU ACHIEVE GOALS
You can read many books on setting goals and how to see them through, but you need to customize it to how you work and operate. It truly takes discipline and commitment because when goals are set with the properly, and given the necessary planning and thought, you just might achieving what you set out to do. Seek to understand, put some thought into goals as I feel that we all have great intentions and we can do so much more if only we can reach our goals.
SET BIG GOALS, DREAM BIG AND 10X IT! OK, HOLD ON THEIR BUDDY!
I have reflected on the many failures of achieving goals and have learned how to approach goals so that they get achieved. Once I learned how to approach my goals, I learned the formula to approach them, and the momentum prepared me to take on bigger goals. I know many books and gurus are encouraging us to think bigger, set larger goals and 10x whatever goal you have set, to begin with. Now I agree with all of that, but if you cannot even accomplish a single goal, how the hell are you gonna 10X anything? You need to first have a system in place for you to achieve any goal and learn from them so that you can take on your bigger 10x goals.
Dream big, but don’t only dream about big 10x goals, take the necessary steps to accomplish your big goals. I am all about setting big goals, then 10x’ing it, but the goals set truly needs more respect, and if not given the due respect, it will slap you in the face, and you will quit. So much for that 10x right? Sounds great, it impresses friends when you blurt it out, but when it takes sacrifice, discipline, and daily action, will you meet the necessary measures to make your big dream happen or will it simply die?
Ok, you made it this far in the article. So now what Vu? Well, the first step is to realize that goals are tough. It creates change in your life and change is hard, but understand that over time, it gets better and easier. Just like my gym example above, over time your muscles get used to the workouts and you get stronger, it gets easier and once you overcome the obstacles, goals will be reached. Start by pausing before making a resolution or goal, sit down and map out a plan and think through how you will deal with the challenges and commit to what you plan to do. Then take consistent action. Start there, and momentum will take over, new habits will be formed, and it will become part of your lifestyle and schedule. Respect your goals and it will respect you back!